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Prof. Toyin Falola

By Toyin Falola
I have two messages for you from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love and lust. She asked me to talk about how a man can love you before I talk about Valentine. This goddess is also in charge of beauty and pleasure. Her department covers sex and romance. She reincarnates as Venus among the Romans, covering the same subjects, including passion and creation. Celtic Áine (not Aina) joined both goddesses. Originally the goddess of the sun, she did not derive profit from that and changed to that of love. She prefers you do love during summer, which is not a good time to visit Greece as it is hot and humid. Well, heat does not disturb my people in Lagos.

Venus asked me to tell Nigerian women that good food is not enough to obtain love. You need to put a love potion in the food, especially efo riro that has the same colour as that of brown or black potion that I offer freely. Please don’t make the mistake of putting the love potion in red sauce, as your secret will be out. If it is in a pouch, avoid putting it under the pillow and bed. Men routinely check those places. I have the one made of powder, which you mix with your regular powder. Be careful; don’t use the one recommended by Mr. Macaroni, as you will then fall in love with him instead of your husband. And don’t use it for Zaddy (Power to the people!), as he has an incurable sexual appetite.

Human attraction is a wonderful feeling. To have someone genuinely care and watch out for the other person is an attribute of the devotion they share. Humans are social, hence the need for interactions from time to time. Many cannot live alone; the books of history on the early civilization of us all have spoken moderately on the coexistence of humans, sharing levels of attraction and devotion.

Love is perhaps the strongest emotion you can experience. The sorrow and emptiness that engulfed a person at the loss of a dear one through death, separation, or conflict shows how weak we are under its influence. It is a deep connection that goes beyond what is being portrayed on movie sets in Bollywood, Telemundo, and K-drama series, from which modern youths get their inspiration. Interestingly, African love and loving styles strongly differ from what is obtained in other parts of the world. The ways obtained from other parts of the world, if conceptualized within African society, can be dangerous. Are you comparing Gu Jun Pyo’s kind of love to that of Femi, an original Yoruba demon? Just dey play.

Love is a beautiful feeling. It is friendship that is inflamed. It is loyalty through thick and thin, embracing human imperfections and weaknesses. To love is to be alive. African loving style is unique; it comprises both expressive and non-expressive shows of affection that bind people. When love is unreciprocating, it allows the feeling of unfulfilled desire for another, which may cause self-doubt, feelings of rejection, and emotional distress. Individuals who experience rejection are usually between two valleys of complex emotional disorders. They begin to question their self-worth and desirability, and some may become desperate to have the one their heart yearns for at all costs. However, in this present age, love is not always the goal; money is. Kudi. Back for ground, Naira for hand. A man can be as ugly as a baboon, but if your pocket is loaded, you are a potential target. If not managed carefully, such individuals may become a nuisance to themselves and society at large, creating a social problem.

This brings to mind questions on the possibility of induced love. Can potions truly make people love? Does a love potion exist? I know how to make some. I will give you 500 numbers to call for reference. I have made one for a woman to attract a Senator. I was the one who made it possible for a woman in her 30s to become a federal minister without having to start as the PA to the Chair of Isola Local Government! Just dey play.

Africans are deeply rooted in ancestral practices and hold these beliefs in esteem. Our connection to ancestral ways is staunch that civilization does not interfere with core African beliefs. Our culture is not a myth or folklore, as we have seen the manifestations of these beliefs in real time. Our belief in the traditional approach to matters of life is strongly attached to the knowledge that extraterrestrial powers exist. The understanding of this allows us to share unique cultural dynamics in today’s world.

Of these beliefs is the knowledge of charms and traditional methods of getting things done. Unlike other parts of the world where this seems to be a myth, love potions exist in this part of the world and have been utilized for years to bring two distant people together. “Ogun ifẹ”, as the Yorùbá calls it, is of various types and levels of potency. There are types in the form of concoctions and food; some can be in the form of “tiro” (eyeliner) or face powder, while others can be utilized by merging two small human edifices tied together. If it is properly done, enemies will become best pals overnight.

Love must have been what Bode thought he felt when he set his eyes on Toyin at the party he attended with his girlfriend. He was a divorcee who wanted to give love another shot, and things were starting to get serious with the lady he brought to the party. Although he was sitting beside his girlfriend, he was immediately unusually drawn to Toyin, but he could not explain it. Before he could remember what day it was, he had followed Toyin to the restroom and literally wanted to eat her. Omo! He could not control himself and followed her until he got her number. By the time he came back to the party, his girlfriend had left angrily, but he was not bothered. Toyin was irresistible, and he wanted her. They spoke on the phone for a while and then linked up later, where they finally did the do. That was the “turning point” for Bode. It was not until eight months later he came back to his senses. All he saw on the floor were red clothes, waist beads, something called “Favour powder,” a bottle of Kayanmata, and a piece of paper with his name written on it sealed in a container. His mum, girlfriend, and friend had to fill him in on what happened, as he could vaguely remember.

After they had sex that day, Toyin moved into his house and barred access to him. In the space of 8 months, he had bought her a car, a house, a land, established a business for her, and was the Odogwu funding her baby girl lifestyle. He was overly jealous and protective of her, so much so that he would not care to fight anyone who even looked at her. His mother said she knew something was wrong when he stopped sending money for his children’s upkeep. It was when he said he had no money to pay his father’s hospital bills but bought Toyin a house at that same period she tightened her oja and went to ori oke. In fact, the mother had gone to the house to see him, only for Toyin to refuse her access to the house and order the gateman to chase her out. Mama Osi! She was nursing this heartache when, one day, she randomly met a woli in the market who narrated to her everything that had been happening and told her that Bode was under a spell. He then said he would follow her to Bode’s house the following day.

Fortunately, Toyin was not in the house when they came that day. As soon as he entered the house, the prophet went straight to where Toyin kept all of her “tools.” She then came in crying and confessed that she was jealous of her friends who were living large and decided to patronize an IG vendor who sold “spiritual Kayanmata.” At this time, Bode’s senses had returned, but he felt like he just woke up from a dream. His friend told him how he had almost run his business to the ground because he kept withdrawing huge sums of money from the company account. When he sat down to calculate everything he had spent on Toyin, it totalled about 150 million Naira. In 8 months! This is the part where I advise you: Fear women!

It is rather sad how this wickedness has now become normal, especially among young ladies who only want the pleasures of life on a platter of gold. They target men who have what they need, and because they wear the “favour powder,” men are automatically drawn to them like insects around bright light. “Do as I say” makes the man do everything they ask of him while Kayanmata keeps him glued to her. I know how to make both.

Despite the pride we take in this, it would be folly not to address the potential problems that arise from these methods, as they involve unethical practices that can endanger lives and social peace. Seeking affection through inducement is not right; it abolishes the essence of mutualism in affection. Using a love potion is like creating a fake reality. Deep down, you know the other person is not invested in the relationship; an entity beyond them is binding them to be with you. It is a situation that is well thought about. It is like being locked up in a dream; you only enjoy the moment while it lasts. The use of potions to get love speaks of the influencer’s insecurities, greed, and obsession with one another, and that is unhealthy.
Modernization or wokeness may be one reason why people believe that love potions do not exist. However, tales are proving their existence even in the face of denial. It is quite difficult to bring in well-documented evidence to back this claim, as many victims do not come out to talk for fear of stigmatization and embarrassment. Also, the legal system does not acknowledge it, as it cannot be proven on paper. Offenders may only be tried when the act leads to more serious harm or crime against another. Alas! The police are yet to catch me!

Love potion is not gender-based. Both genders can become prey unknowingly. Some time ago, an article, which I believe is one of the many stories of potion-induced relationships, was up on the internet. It was about a female corps member serving in a far distant land in Nigeria. At first, no one took it seriously, as it was normal for a lady to cohabit with a man. Things, however, became funny when she got pregnant, and it was discovered she had become one with the man, a “stark illiterate” who barely understood a word in English. All efforts to make her leave were futile till she birthed two kids. She did not realize what mess she was in until she was put to bed successfully. It was too late to cry when she came to her senses.
For men, the reality is quite different. Love potions can be employed on men for many reasons. It could be employed to keep an abusive man in place. Over time, people have always sought solutions to their crises. An abused wife, upon careful deliberations and advice from others, may resort to charms and concoctions to call her husband to order. This goes beyond African traditional medicine, as there are cases where women seek religious heads to give them substances that would keep their husbands calm. Such men would then be at the mercy of these women, doing their bidding. Potions may be used to snatch a man from his woman. An undocumented case was of a man who spends the most in his time at a nearby joint. According to the story, he was generous in his spending and thus attracted the attention of the joint owner, who allegedly served him pepper soup. From that moment, he forgot his home and continued to spend his money on his new mistress.

Nevertheless, it is impossible to rule out mutual attachment in this case. He might have found her alluring and decided to go with his heart. However, the onus lies in the chances that he was under the influence of something sinister. A sane man would rather commit to more than one relationship than abscond from his wife and children.

Amongst the populace, Kayanmata remains the most sought-after. For many, despite the claims by vendors, the product is the leeway to riches and unending gifting from their partners. Although the product is naturally an aphrodisiac, its use has evolved as many continue to attribute it to different things. It costs as little as ₦3000 to get a product, while a full package could be around ₦50,000 or more in this agbado economy. Even with no scientific backing, sales have been on the increase for a long, as it is a common name on the lips of many.

To strike a balance, we may have to consider the impact of good sex in relationships. Sex can be likened to food for some. Sexual energy differs by individual, and denial of sex may be frustrating for some. When the sex life is good, partners feel a high level of satisfaction and thus can result in extending goodwill to the other. This is common sense for humans as they would naturally hold onto what brings satisfaction. In essence, money or love is sometimes not the primary motivator for the use of love potions. Women can use juju on a man just because they know or perceive the man to be “well endowed” and can satisfy them properly. People have different reasons why they do what they do, and you will be shocked when you hear some of them.

If you have been jazzed, I hope this piece opens your brain. If, however, you laugh or even share it with the woman who is using Kayanmata on you, then otilo. I recommend deliverance. If you have not been Kayanmatad, stay safe. The streets are not smiling.
Await my message on Valentine’s Day!

 

 

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Fear Of Witchcraft And Politics In Zambia

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Witch Burning, Impunity And Abuses Linked to Witchcraft Beliefs In Benue State
Dr Leo Igwe

By Leo Igwe

The Advocacy for Alleged Witches (AfAW) is concerned over the reported arrest of two men accused of being ‘witchdoctors’ in Zambia. The arrest underscores the potency of witchcraft fears and the connection between occult anxieties and the country’s politics. These individuals were accused of trying to bewitch the Zambian president, Hakainde Hichilema. The police claimed that they had charms. They planned to use the charms to harm the president. The report says the two persons have been charged under Zambia’s Witchcraft Act. The Act criminalizes “possession of charms”, “professing knowledge of witchcraft”, and “cruelty to wild animals”. The police found the two with assorted charms, including a live chameleon.

This development is utterly embarrassing and shows that the Zambian government is slowly losing its focus and bearing.The country has many socio-economic challenges. Suspicion of bewitchment or possession of charms should be the least of its worries at this time. There should be no place for witchcraft and possession of charms in modern politics because there is no evidence for these beliefs and practices. Zambian authorities should not weaponize the Witchcraft Act or use it to justify this incident. Zambian law does not recognize witchcraft. Zambia’s Witchcraft Act criminalizes naming or imputing witchcraft. It prohibits accusing or threatening to accuse any person of being a witch or a wizard. In this case, it is the police who are breaking the law.

Otherwise, how did they know the two individuals were ‘witchdoctors’? Did these persons identify as witch doctors? If not, the police are liable because they named and imputed witchcraft and have to prove that these individuals have witch-doctoring powers. The police claimed to have charged these individuals for possessing “assorted charms”, including a chameleon. Really?

The police in Zambia have questions to answer: What are charms? How did they know that what was in their possession were charms, not pets? Is a chameleon a form of charm? What makes possession of a chameleon possession of a charm? When and how does a chameleon become a charm? The police need to answer these questions and more before one takes them seriously.

Again, did the individuals describe what was in possession as ‘charms’? If they did, does confessing or designating something as a charm make it a charm? And if they did not, the police are liable because they need to prove how those possessions translated into charms.

In addition, the police claimed that the duo wanted to bewitch the president. What does that mean? How did they know? Are the police not contravening a provision under the Witchcraft Act by professing knowledge of witchcraft? Can one harm another person using a chameleon? They claimed that the two persons wanted to use the charms in their possession, including the chameleon to harm the president. How did they know that? What is the evidence for that?

The Advocacy for Alleged Witches calls for an end to this state-sponsored witch hunt. There is no evidence of harm through witchcraft or charms. The Zambian government should desist from witchcraft- related infractions and violations including arbitrary arrest, and detention of innocent citizens. These allegations are baseless and absurd. The arrest was politically motivated. This development demonstrates that Zambian authorities are out of sync with their duty and obligation to uphold the rule of law and protect accused persons.

Zambian authorities need to act in compliance with the 2021 UN resolution, which urged states to take measures to combat abuses linked to witchcraft beliefs and ritual attacks. End witchcraft allegations in Zambia. End witch hunts in Africa now!

Dr Igwe directs the Advocacy for Alleged Witches.

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Burning Issues: (FCT Minister And Paulosa) (2)

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Prof. Tony Afejuku

By Tony Afejuku

The other burning issue, apart from Farotimi and Babalola’s, which I wish to take a look at – and which I am taking a look at now – relates to what is happening in our capital territory. What is this burning issue – which our human rightists and civil society organisations and personages are surprisingly and un-satisfactorily not inclined to focus attention on and examine as they should? I may be wrong, but it surely seems to me that this issue, this burning issue, which is of more importance than Farotimi and Babalola’s – which has been given undue adulation – is deliberately being neglected and depreciated by proclaimers and heroes and heroines of human rights, justice, equity and equality of rights in your country my country our country. Why, why, why and why, why, why? Anyone who has any iota of patriotic sensibility, feeling and judgment well watered and buttressed by a very great influence upon his or her critical judgment will keep on asking the question I am asking.

Mr. Nyesom Wike, as almost everybody who can read and write a little knows, is the current minister of your, my and our Federal Capital Territory. His post or office is akin to that of a governor of a state. As the immediate past governor of Rivers State who was drafted, after his two terms there expired, to continue in the FCT as its new minister-governor or governor-minister under the auspices of a party he is not a true member of, Mr. Wike cannot but be seen as a lucky man. He is in every possible and impossible way. Minister-Governor Wike is a lucky man and a very fortunate one indeed. No former governor of Rivers State (or of any Nigerian state), as far as I know, has achieved what the famed political rouser of rabbles has achieved in one short gubernatorial life-time, and at a relatively young and fertile age. His dual achievement with and in two different political parties at this delicate point of Nigerian politics indicates to our politicians and us all that there is always time for a reminder that there are ready-made high rewards for arch-angels of betrayals. And Mr. Wike may go down in Rivers and Nigerian history as both an arch-angel and an emperor of betrayal of us all if we attempt to indicate what I have defined here as his dual achievement.

We can roughly divide, briefly, Wike’s political development into two periods. During the first, excluding his lower political positions before he became the governor of Rivers State, he quickly adapted his style to that of an emperor who became a rabble-rouser of rabble-rousers whose gubernatorial efficiency moved from stiffness to stiffness. He did not at any time feel that he needed suppleness to govern Rivers State. “Let the heavens fall if they must fall!” We are not there yet in this attempted analysis of the stiff-hearted and stiff-minded one. True? But he is already demonstrating this characteristic in Abuja. False? Judge and give the answer yourself.

Even after he left Rivers State a short while ago as governor, he is still trying to control happenings there to the political discomfiture of his hand-picked successor, his erstwhile “boy” and “son” – with whom he has fallen out. As the minister-governor or governor-minister of the FCT, Wike is occupied with the other taste of the emperor-juggernaut formulator – doing the work of two key political masters in one room and desk of political jugglery. Since his appearance in the FCT, minister-governor or governor-minister Wike has allegedly attempted to recover or transform for Abuja what is not traditionally or socially Abuja’s, for example, the city’s social idiom and landscape and terrain as well as its environs. In doing this he sometimes over-steps his bounds and mark of human/inhuman decency/indecency and psychological understanding of human nature, if you follow well what I am saying; he has so far become at best not really better than a typical pedestrian Nigerian lawyer and officer of political power: in his explorations so far in the Federal Capital Territory we have come to the realization, as T. S. Eliot would say, that “it is so often true that only by going too far can we find out how far we can go.” But one has to be a very negatively obstinate and self-serving emperor and a thorough-bred arch-angel of betrayal of the people and masses to justify such perilous and perfidious expeditions and adventures.

Last week, I saw on Arise Television “The Morning Show” Chief Rita Lori-Ogbebor, the dutiful widow of the late Nigerian supreme patriot and soldier, Colonel Ogbebor (of Benin stock) battling, so to say, to wrest the legacy of her late husband from the tight grip of the adventurous FCT minister-governor who has registered his name and signature in the hearts and consciousness of the people as the depriver of their possessions. The three anchors of “The Morning Show” were in their respective ways splendid in their structures of remarks and questions to Chief (Mrs.) Rita Lori-Ogbebor whom I have had occasions in times past to call patriotically Rita A-K 47 on account of her natural right to fire her beautiful tongue at any person, usually an enemy, of just actions. When she made the case she made to protect the estate of Paulosa Nigeria Limited, her late husband’s aforesaid legacy in the FCT, she was in her natural territory, habitat and element where even at age eighty-four, she never ever loses her stability – although she unusually restrained herself in the Arise Television appearance. Dr. Reuben Abati, Rufai Oseni, and Ayo Mairo-Ese clearly explored seriously but delightfully the mind of the mother-hen of Warri – my other coinage and appellation I gave her in my poetry. Her “The Morning Show” appearance enabled me to see the poignant cry de profundis of the FCT inhabitants whose property and residences in different guises have been demolished. She did not say anything that was out of joint. She spoke and came out as a mother, protector and symbol of the people who have suffered – and are suffering – from the state of affliction and anguish Wike’s demolitions have placed – and are placing – the people.

Ojy Okpe in her delicious and delectable “What is Trending” slot on the same show, showed without exaggeration but with further elaboration what people in and outside Abuja/FCT think of the mighty Wike’s demolitions, a burning issue that the Senate has asked “Let Heaven Fall” minister-governor Wike to halt as the committee the Senate set up on the issue starts its work. Of course, we cannot but assume that Chief Rita Lori-Ogbebor, Mrs. Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan as well as Mrs. Ireti Kingigbe, the senator representing the FCT in the Senate and other patriotic senators diligently did what they did on the floor of the Senate when the burning issue was tabled for debate with the gracious understanding and authorization of the Senate President.

I need to state further that the “The Morning Show” anchors did well and extremely so by giving the minister-governor the opportunity to air his anti-Paulosa story. His senior special assistant on public communication and social media, Mr. Olalere Olayinka, stood in for him. After he gave the reasons for the clamp-down, his responses to the questions the anchors put to him followed the usual pattern of denials by artificial men in power – denials that they always use to intimidate and betray the people. In fact, Mr. Olayinka’s ploy to ride easily over our dear Rufai Oseni, a wholesome representative of the deprived, that the chap (or is it guy?) and his boss always employ their colloquial speeches and remarks to dishonor, failed. Yes, the ploy failed woefully. In stanza after stanza of the exchanges between Mr. Olayinka and the Arise anchors, he deteriorated – and his deterioration was hall-marked when he unwittingly revealed that the Paulosa land had been acquired by his minister-governor’s close cohort, an act that was nothing short of gross abuse of power and authority.

Because the Senate is already using its authority, power and privilege to resolve the burning issue, hopefully, in a way that the late Colonel Ogbebor’s legacy and family will not be subjected to any kind of degradation, I will utter no more words for now. I trust, however, that the liberties the Senate is taking – or has taken – are for the sake of order to favour the down-trodden.

As for the minister-governor, the PDP emperor at large, here is an immortal quote from Marcus Aurelius, the magnificent and authentic Roman Emperor and philosopher (A.D. 121-180): “If it is not right, do not do it; if it is not true, do not say it.” You lose nothing by giving us a slice of your humanity by your right acts and correct words. Everything changes and passes. Be humane as a human being.

Afejuku can be reached via 08055213059.

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Questionstorm As A Method Of Teaching

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By Leo Igwe

Recently, I facilitated a critical thinking workshop at the Bay Wreath Schools in Lagos. The theme was critical thinking and teacher development. As the theme stated, the workshop was on teaching, about teaching, and for teachers. It highlighted the pedagogical value of critical and reflective inquiry. The workshop exposed teachers to critical mental habits and skills. It emphasized how critical thinking would enhance expertise in the learning and delivery of subjects in classrooms.

I used the opportunity to discuss questionstorm as a method of teaching and learning. Questionstorm is a way that I operationalized critical thinking for primary and elementary schools. Questionstorm is the ability to interrogate all objects and materials. It is a habit of questioning ideas and experiences in all areas of human endeavor. Simply put, questionstorm is a question-driven inquiry. Children are naturally curious. They thirst for knowledge and understanding. Unfortunately, the school system kills children’s curiosity and dampens their interrogative appetite. The school system places much emphasis on rote learning and memorization. It makes the generation of answers not questions or problems the test of knowledge, and the determinant of intelligence. Teaching is largely a drudgery, a monotonous exercise, and a process of depositing knowledge on passive recipients, the students. Teaching entails dumping information on learners whose duty is to cram and reproduce during tests or examinations.

This teaching praxis has been criticized and blamed for the poor performance of students post-school (college and university) and their inability to think independently, creatively, and innovatively. Other teaching methods have tried to address these gaps and limitations. There have been suggestions to make teaching and instruction more active, and more student/learner/child-centered. One such method is the Montessori method. The Montessori method discourages grades and tests as ways of measuring achievement or determining intelligence and excellence. It emphasizes hands-on learning and the development of real-world skills. While the Montessori method stresses the practical approach to learning it says very little about the authoritarian teacher-to-student approach that is the mainstay of teaching and learning in classrooms. Teaching follows a pattern that leaves students and learners in the margins and unable to question and contribute to the learning process. Teachers present what is to be learned such as a text, and then generate questions that students respond or address to demonstrate knowledge of what has been taught. The student’s or learner’s main job is to answer questions, to look for or find answers or solutions. The teacher’s work is to get students to look for, and provide answers, and reproduce what they have been taught or told. But students are answer-depots. Students are not memory banks or reserves. They are active minds and thinking agents.

With questionstorm as a teaching method, the mode of instruction would change. Teaching becomes a cooperative endeavor that actively involves teachers and students. What is taught in the classroom is a collaborative note, not the teacher’s note, not a handout to students. Teachers present or generate texts or objects for learning, in response to intense questioning of the object or material by students, teachers provide information as required for that subject, topic, level, and time frame. No two instances of teaching – of the same topic or subject- are or should be the same because the input of students and teachers is not predetermined.
This is because of an overlooked principle in teaching and learning, that I call the “uncertainty principle”.

The uncertainty principle underlies questionstorm because knowledge is not fixed. Learning is a fluid process. All that is to be learned is uncertain, it is unknown and never determined. No teacher can say beforehand what is to be taught or learned because no one knows exactly the questions and answers or replies that would arise when a topic is presented or taught in a particular class. A topic or learning material elicits unique responses and exchanges that both teachers and students cannot exactly know or predict a priori, before the fact.

Teaching is a shared task and responsibility. Class notes are fluid materials. They are not texts cast on educational stones and delivered by teachers to students to copy, cut, and paste as is often the case. Class notes are not written or produced by teachers for students but by teachers with students. Teachers’ notes are incomplete and insufficient. They account only for a part, not a whole of the learning process and material. Students’ input completes and complements the teaching material and learning process. Thus every class note is unique because it is a product of a specific collaborative endeavor, a product of particular teaching and learning agents and circumstances that cannot be repeated or replicated.

Thus, as a teaching method, questionstorm is set to facilitate teacher development and improve the quality of instruction in schools. Questionstorm will help realize a paradigm shift in education and learning. I hope educators, teachers, and school managers will embrace this method of teaching and learning.

Dr  Igwe directs the Critical Thinking Social Empowerment Foundation.

 

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